Monday, September 19, 2016

Nursing: Diary of my Back to Work!


Mat leave is officially over world (for the rest of my life)!
Now back to full time shift work, and really if you look at in reverse, it's also full time mothering- but  in my case with a better balance. On mat leave, it's day in day out routine. let's face it, mom's do the extra large breadth of the child rearing from 0-12months. As a full time RN, our shifts are 2 day shifts (0730-1930) and 2 night shifts (1930-0730) with 4-5 days off in between. Sounds awesome to have so many days off? yes it darn right is even though one of those days i'm basically fcked up trying to readjust my circadian rhythm without too much over caffeinating all the while trying to stay patient when lacking sleep.

I was fortunate enough to be given 1 orientation day shift on Sept 16th and 1 night shift on my own, after that- as in as I'm typing now, I'm off for another 10 days due to vacation and change in job overlap of days off. back to work feels like i just got my foot in the water and had a glimpse of when i can sneak in sleep and rest so i don't kill anyone at work (ha! but true). For Dad, great way to get a reality check on how hard it is to manage 2 kids and hopefully be more empathetic and take more initiative in helping out MOM.

This is a diary of my first shifts back in employment.

Sept 15- lots of talks with Max about how I'm going back to work and who's going to cosleep with him and wake him up, how to behave and be patient with dad as he's a creature of routine. He's been telling me, "mom i don't want you to go back to work!" with some tears shed by him. what truly has helped, and I'm glad he's old enough, is to tell him that 'Mom always comes back' and if he ever missed me, I'm a FaceTime away as well as a call. I remember it was harder going back to work when he was younger because he was so attached, less so now by a few degrees.

As for me, i remember when i had to go back to work after having Max; I had to have a goodbye cry (cries, even). Guilt, separation anxiety, annoyance that baby daddy didn't help so much with the child rearing and now needs a crash course in Max's scheduling. This time, I had no cry, ready to work (!!) absolutely needing change, slight guilt, and every presence of annoyance because again, do i need to mention that I DID 95% OF THE WORK with these kids while on mat leave?! I was really done. i also literally had to write down a schedule for dear husband on when things happen, what they liked to eat, and what options he had if something didn't work; not impressed.

Sept 16 0400: Baby cried per usual, i went out to feed her to get her back to sleep. Max woke up a few minutes later crying because he thought i left to get ready or go to work without saying goodbye to him. So once Mikkel went back to sleep, I scooped him up and we went back to bed and though i was officially awake from the overstimulation, Max resettled with some reassurance and although he stirred when i had to get up at 520am to get ready, i was able to say bye and he was content.

0600h: baby officially wakes up. breastfed and happy. Cried when i had to go leave and Gene went out with her to distract her.
0700h: SOS text from Gene to come home lol. At this time I also go a quality coffee treat (iced Americano) to fuel me up for the day.
0730-1930 (while at work): talked with adults. Great day. Had regular breaks and HOT FOOD. Got rest. Got quiet time and time to think. Practiced and reoriented my skills.

2000h: came home, Max had a shower with me, told me all the hiccups of the day he could remember, and his day at school. We had a snack and then went to bed at 2045h.

my sleep was pretty crappy this night as the 0700h caffeine drink i had not only fuelled me for the day, but also the night as my brain DID NOT turn off and I didnt feel mentally rested at all the next day. Yes, I'm that much of a quality caffeine virgin. for next set, I'm not sure if i will be opting for the espresso.

With Max's mat leave, i wanted to know anything and everything that happened during my time away. but this time, knowing that Gene didnt have the same resources i had (read: boob), and to save myself from getting upset at his techniques at a job that i appreciate is uber hard for him, i told myself to be just dandy that the kids were fed, had a sleep, and were alive. To boot, the house wasn't a disaster when i came home. Kudos to dad (mind you, he didnt volunteer much information either haha)!

Sept 17 0200h: baby wakes up, breast and back to sleep until 0600h.
id like to mention that by 0200 my breasts were ENGORGED like heck. I hadn't breast feed since about 0600h of the previous day. This also contributed to my poor sleep as my breasts were just in the way and was uncomfortable to sleep on my stomach, on my side, on my back. I'm not sure about you but when I'm engorged, i feel a sense of urgency and need to empty and a flight or fight response. Once the overnight feed started, the other breast actually started leaking which hasn't happened for the longest time. I'm surprised I didn't lactate at work!

Sept 17: This day is my pre-night shift day and the morning is treated per usual routine, except I'm completely still exhausted from the day before and I'm trying to not drink any caffeine as i need to sleep during the day to be able to stay awake for the rest of the night. On regular days, Gene wakes up at 9am, this day i think he himself was so exhausted from his experience of overstimulation that he woke up at 1100am.

1000h: Mikkel had her first nap, I took a 20 minute nap in bed with Max chilling on the iPad. did you know 20 minutes, according to literature, is enough time to regenerate and refresh for another few hours? more than 20 minutes, one is actually slower to recover and more groggy.

I told Gene that I wanted to have an official nap from 2pm - 4pm, or at least set aside some time to rest regardless of how much sleep time I get in that two hour window. I put the baby down at 2pm, crashed on the bed with Max per his request, again on the iPad. I slept for maybe 1 hour (?), didnt feel rested because the caffeine from the day before was still in my system I guess. Max was in and out of my room from 3-4pm and i basically just shut my eyes but didnt sleep. Sucks but still helps. Gene had the baby and cooked the rest of the dinner which i had prepped in the morning.

1815h: left for work, kids and baby daddy went to the park.

1930-0730h: worked. talked with friends. had a sleeping break.

Sept 18 0800h: home. Got a report that Gene had a shitty night (sensitive sleeper). He coslept with Max, but since he was a light sleeper and the baby monitor was on, he never really had a sound rest. baby woke up at 1am and had an hourly whine for a few minutes. She ended up waking up at 0545am and Max, who usually sleeps till 8 or 9am, woke up at 7am.

prior to coming home, i texted Gene that i was coming home within minutes so he can hide with Mikkel and i can sneak in to have a shower. Max seeing me is no longer a problem thank goodness. Before I shut the door to sleep, about 815am, Max says, "mommy, i slept with daddy but I missed you!" OMG I love how this kid loves me! I had a poor sleep from 830am until 1045am as i just had a shower, the house was noisy, Max kept coming in to visit as he was excited I was home, and it was just generally loud. Got ready for the day at 11am and took over the reigns as well.

I whisked the kids off at 12pm to the mall and my parents so Gene can rest.
Home at 4pm.
Life per previous routine.

Max and I crashed for night sleep at 845pm.

Work is much easier than home life because I get a BREAK. Both are equally rewarding in their way and I'm glad I can now use different parts of my brain and body. The lack of sleep I get is just so freaking horrendous. Next set I'm doing a full 2 days 2 night and totally not looking forward to it. When i reminded this to husband in text, the response I got was "Shit" (lol). What I am looking forward to, is next year when Max is in full day kindergarten and Gene can manage the 1 child while the other is away. It's like having 1 child all over again! haha. This is also another reason while i just love their age difference.

Thank to caffeine and makeup for their different powers!
'tis my new life.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

WTF Mikkel is 1 YEAR OLD!


hair: dark brown
eyes: light brown, not as light as Max
height: just under 29" 
weight: TBA after her Sept 13th vaccines

head: two upper front teeth appear to be making their way down, thus she's fussier than usual especially when she sees me leave or I'm not near her. I'm giving her Tylenol at night, less than optimal amount but just enough to provide some relief as teething can't be comfortable. funny with Max I didnt give him any drugs, but with #2 it's like fck it, why make her suffer? why keep her up at night? loves to dance and usually does some sort of bouncing while standing when she hears any upbeat music. I love Youtube Kids for those children's songs I don't know the words to, but can remember from my childhood.


^^ lefty!?! ^^

cries: As above with separation from me. she still really sucks at travelling in the car! this last month i changed her to front facing in her car seat because I just couldn't take the fighting between the two of them and because she's constantly screaming and crying. When we turned Max to front facing it was night and day with his fussiness, but with Mikkel it's no fighting and still screaming and crying just not constant. i'm still sitting in the back with them, and it's only a partial help. I'm sure it's because she loathes being restrained. maybe she's also car sick? i know i feel nauseated whenever I'm in the car. only time will tell when she can talk!

GI: usual mojo fries, eggs, peas, most meats- particularly chicken, green apples, she continues to like whatever she liked last month. she's truly in love with watermelon and has eaten so much! pineapples, mangos, cantaloupe, grapes, regular Cheerios; so far so good. she's been having 1 poop per day, usually after breakfast. this month she suddenly knew how to use a straw. i haven't bought any new drinking vessels because she's constantly dropping the sippy cup and straw cup on the ground after every drink and they're bound to break sooner or later. one annoying thing she started doing towards the latter part of this last month was sweeping food off of her tray at every meal unpredictably. by sweeping, you put various food on her tray and she just sweeps her hand over her tray and all the food goes on the ground. SUPER annoying. ahhh well, back on the tray it goes anyways. from what I've noticed, she does this sweep either when she doesn't like the food or she's getting full. maybe she does it to get a reaction too because she looks at me right after. smart! 




feeding: still breastfeeding as per plan. my current schedule is if she wakes up at 6am- feed, after breakfast - feed, maybe a whining feed to calm, and another feed prior to going on in anticipation of having a nap while out within the next 30 minutes. feed after lunch/close to 2nd nap, feed before bedtime as part of night routine.  if she wakes up after  625/630am, no feeding. breakfast asap around 7am, post breakfast feed, whiny snack feed, pre-activity/nap feed, after lunch feed/close to 2nd nap feed, then pre night sleep. this is about as much as i can wean right now as part of path of least resistance and so that i can help prepare her for my absence while at work.  SHE LOVES THE BREAST, like a magnet.  not sure what Gene will do, perhaps introduce milk to her in the next few days in a straw cup for the filled belly sensation. 

GU: finished up #4 baby dry and am now using #5 baby dry

^^ first pony tail! ^^

^^ first car! i have to add that this Step2 car has gone through 3 grandkids
 and has been with us since 2012. every kid loves it, and plenty of life left ^^


skin/body: squishy and loveable. no apparent skin issues except some bumps on her face which might be a reaction to my make up as is often near my face; nothing concerning.  this last month her and Max have been taking a bath in the big bathtub together, yay! she's a little dangerous though as she stands up a lot and doesn't realize how slippery it can get. she also keeps taking the tub plug off!

communication: says "daddy" "dad" "hi" "mommy" "mamma" "moe-moe or mew mew" (our cat) and "uh oh" after dropping everything on the ground (cute, but not).  she open and closes her hand when saying Bye. she points to things she wants every now and then.  if she thinks something isn't a good idea ie. to put something in her mouth, she holds it up to me to show me and to get consent. so smart! 

muscle strength: cruising, not yet free standing. hoisting herself up looks so easy for her but not letting go just yet. she crawls around the apartment looking for me, adorable! 



hands: when she wants the breast, she puts her hand inside my shirt and pinches my breast or cleavage and laughs. this doesn't happen all the time, only the time when her feed is overdue or due - especially when we're in the middle of a transit ride home or to somewhere. while feeding for night sleep, to which i just let my breast hang out, she usually looks at my breast and pokes and prods at my nipple while giggling. seriously, she loves the breast!

legs: continues to get so frustrated with skirts as they get under her and impede her crawling abilities.  if she only knew it'd be so much easier for her if she just walked! then skirts/dresses galore! she definitely has my and my dad's toe nails, I'm sorry Mikkel! haha

play: she likes this popup toy, but only knows how to close not open them up yet.
various books, opening and closing things, going through my stuff and scattering things around. toilet paper everywhere! she likes to eat crayons, and this month she learned to open up crayola felt lids and eat the felt tip! she likes to split Duplo apart and pull at cords and wave them around (yikes). 



sleep: this last month she moved into her own room with some inherited furniture from my sister. her first night alone she slept from 710pm to 740pm! WOW. Now, her bedtime routine starts at approx 7pm with bath with her brother, pyjamas, then play. books at 730pm, lights out and noise machine on at 740pm, breastmilk buffet and quiet time from 740pm to 8pm. hugs for a few minutes and down into the crib awake- no crying!! wakes up sometime between 545am and 620am without any crying or night feeds.

for naps: 1st nap approx 1040am-1120am on the carrier as we're always on the go. she definitely still needs this nap as she gets really irritable by 930/10am.  For second nap: if I'm at my parents house, she sleeps on the carrier while i go shopping at metrotown for 1.5 hours haha. but if I'm at home, which i try to make a point of doing more than half the week, quiet time 225pm, breastfeed to drowsy at 230pm, down in crib awake but sleepy at 240pm. sleeps usually until 345-4pm. hit or miss with a cry in-between the 45 minute intruder cycles, sometimes just a little whine, other times a 10 minute cry. wakes up cranky like Max when he was at that age.





how she sleeps: 1st nap on carrier, 2nd nap in crib or carrier, night sleep in crib. if in crib, in her own room with the heartbeat setting on the sound machine. my best investment this month was the V TECH DM221 audio baby monitor. i found that the first 2 nights of not having a monitor, i was constantly waking up to listen to her (we sleep with all our doors shut as the CAT wakes everyone up!). Naturally i wasn't getting restful sleep, so i got the monitor and it was a lifesaver. love love love the audio monitor! i didnt get the video monitor as i had read that they could be hacked by neighbours who access the frequency, SICKENING. 

as for me: Im ready for work, but as i say this, i still have 15 days off left. anxiety has partially set in. i haven't started studying yet for work but i have my stuff (scrubs/bag/lock/stockings ready). I'm sleeping well from 945pm to 540ish am solidly. it's basically quitting time for me at 8pm! Max is now no longer napping as per his choice so I'm forced to go to sleep early 930pm to benefit him but really, I'm passed out at 940pm anyways. this month i was able to free myself from responsibilities and was able to go out with friends for 2-3 hours on a friday evening (5-8pm including transit time) but i was receiving SOS texts from husband around 730pm as Mikkel is ready for sleep and escalating. he still hasn't put her down for any sleep. nor is he volunteering to do so anytime soon...so, his call (I'm annoyed and worried for HER). somewhat nesting again and donating so much again. on my birthday i went out for 2 hours by myself to ZARA heaven and was able to try on (!!!!) clothes and buy stuff i don't need. it was heaven, i felt rejuvenated and happy. oh the simple things in life :o) 





Friday, August 26, 2016

Second child A-HA Moments

What I learned with 2 kids now that Mikkel is nearly 1 whole year old (omg)!

this is my 2012 list with my first born.
my 2013 A-HA list.

  1. no two kids are alike. you can plan while #2 is in utero but they'll just throw you a curve ball
  2. i love the age difference between my kids; Jan 2012 and Sept 2015. Max is an amazing helper, it's the little things that count! for example, i couldn't shower alone unless he was there as Mikkel would be bawling. so him and her would play in the play pen and i'd have peace and quiet for a reasonable shower time length
  3. i must've done something right because there's been no apparent sibling jealousy since Mikkel was born
  4. tip #1: buy the older one a gift and insist that it's from their new little sibling
  5. tip #2: if you can, baby wear #2 so you are hands free as #1 transitions into a new normal. I found by doing this, I was never too busy for Max or trapped at home while Mikkel was having a nap
  6. tip #3: give #1 a 'job,' during the transition stage
  7. tip #4: give constant praise and compliments on the oldest' actions and behaviour towards #2
  8. tip #5: if you have a name already for #2, introduce the name to older sibling at least 6-8 weeks before estimate due date. I read Max a becoming a big brother book and constantly mentioned Mikkel. He was accustomed to the name by the time she arrived
  9. tip #6: I made up a 6 word sister song and sang it to Max all the time. sounds similar to the chorus of this song from the movie White Christmas. I also interchanged it with Brother so as if Mikkel was also singing it. kids love songs, kids love songs about Them!
  10. the ERGO carrier is my absolute lifesaver and best investment. If I had to do it all over again, I would buy this first, brand new, top of the line
  11. any funny responses from Mikkel towards Max is prime opportunity to remind him how much she loves him. Smiling at him when we open the door to wake him up? she loves you so much Max! Showing you some toy she's holding? she wants to share with you Max! she loves you so much!
  12. i love bedsharing and room sharing, so easy
  13. don't buy a crib unless you can be certain of your child's personality: cosleeper vs. independent spirit. if cosleeper, the crib will just be a space hog. we started the first month with the co-sleeper bassinet
  14. i really appreciated the Graco pack and play this time around. I saw how Mikkel's sleep evolved and had a deeper understanding of her sleep needs and style while being in the same room and close to me. love portability!
  15. i was all about feeding rules with Max, with Mikkel she's eating fried potato wedges at 7 months ha! it's a whatever works, fed is best, sleep is best, dressed in something is best attitude
  16. motherhood is hard work, treat yo' self
  17. with my children's age gap, an umbrella stroller was all I needed. thank goodness i didnt buy a twin or tandem stroller, i have no room for all that hardware in condo living
  18. with #1, new clothes. with #2, hand me downs any colour will be fine. Babies don't care what they wear.
  19. from 0-6.5 months, baby OXI-CLEAN is necessary to remove those blowout stains from clothes. Poop stains. stained clothes in the dryer = ruined clothes = wasted money
  20. breastfeeding? formula feeding? FED IS BEST
  21. best baby socks are from Old Navy, i like the knee high ones as they actually stay on 
  22. button up sleepers are ok when they can't roll over, otherwise it's a fucking fight to the death to button up those snaps. zipper sleepers ONLY please
  23. i love lanolin for the nipples, lanolin is necessary ladies!
  24. Mojo fries or Fry wedges are a great BLW option
  25. no need to get hung up on baby led weaning vs. pureed foods. there will come a time, approx 8 months old, when the kid will refuse to be spoon fed anyways and BLW is your only option until they're open to being fed with a spoon again
  26. craigslist and Facebook kid swap sites are great sources for second hand baby stuff. not everything has to be brand new
  27. peruse through the Amazon reviews before buying anything
  28. a white noise machine is essential to cancel out other house noises; like a toddler having a tantrum in the middle of the night because OF ANYTHING! 
  29. it's true, the last 10lbs are the hardest to lose. WTF metabolism!?
  30. y'know how some women swear by breastfeeding as the source of their weight loss? yeah I'm not one of those women!!
  31. don't fall for the girl toy and boy toy marketing, babies and kids don't give a fuck naturally. it's however the people they are surrounded by that teach them gender specific appropriateness, super frustrating.
  32. nothing wrong with some distracted parenting, i can't be ON in mom mode 24/7
  33. skin to skin immediately after birth, get your bacteria on those babies! your hormones will be in a frenzy
  34. even in an apartment setting, a baby monitor is necessary for us. I can't hear a thing when she's in the other room
  35. wondering whether to start a sippy cup or straw cup first? buy one of each. Max took a straw cup only, Mikkel used a sippy and then bam one day knew how to use a straw. don't sweat it!
  36. i get really worked up on things that will happen months and weeks in advance. ie. how to train her to sleep in a crib for naps. I've come to realize that I'm a last minute decision maker especially when I'm unsure about an approach. i like to get some background experiences for options, but can only decide on the multitude of options at the last minute
  37. i don't feel the need to travel long distances or going to many places overnight with 0-12month olds. yes I'm lucky that my immediate family is close by, but i am also not one to steer away from night routines. if there's something i will go out of my way for, it's to carry on with night routines; same place same bed. it helps me more than anyone, travelling can wait, sleepless nights affects me for days! 
  38. maternity leave is deadly for an online shopper. baby asleep? free time? shopping! no thanks to Pinterest and complete utter convenience! why is it so easy to drop $100 online but harder when in person? 
  39. IKEA has plenty of pieces that make great makeshift bathtubs. after they're done with that stage, repurpose the 'tub' back to what it was meant to be used for. For example, the TORKIS basket
  40. speaking of baths though, I'm still against soaps and shampoos for babies. they're not dirty. 0-6months = sponge bath, maybe every other day. 6+ months or whenever they're sitting up? = bathroom sink for play factor
  41. having a daughter is a great excuse to buy expensive luxury handbags :op
  42. i was really into the diaper genie but then once poop started to be once a day, i just threw the diaper in the kitchen garbage, double bagged for smell. it does stink up the house if left for long periods. those diaper genie rings add up in costs! 
  43. forget those ugly nursing/breastfeeding specific shirts! Keep on trend with shirts that button up and flowy for an easy lift. Vancouver has been AMAZING for breastfeeding ANYWHERE and  EVERYWHERE (my latest has been on a moving sky train)
  44. forget white shirts, any white shirt. kids will wipe themselves on you and throw things at you (not maliciously). might as well add dry clean only and shirts you love and don't want to wash every 3 days or less
  45. when your child is old enough, you don't need to force them on the breast. just sit there with your breast exposed and it's like a magnet- coming at you with their mouths open wide
  46. best wipes are from Costco (Kirkland) and cheapest place to buy Pampers are Walmart. I'm obsessed with pampers codes!
  47. even though i do 95% of the work around here, husband's 5% of measly help is still useful in its own way. i guess ill keep him after all! 
  48. she will be my last kid because another will end our marriage! see your husband 24/7? no thanks!
  49. i can't keep myself organized electronically. everything has to be written out on pieces of paper, in my agenda, and oh all the ideas and wise things i think of come while breastfeeding and before I sleep where and when i don't have my agenda with me and forget within an hour of thinking of it
  50. the only show i've watched while on mat leave religiously is Breakfast television. otherwise, i hate it when the TV is on. Very overstimulating when you already have 2 kids + husband + pet. Commercials, vocal ranges and volumes, flashing lights etc.. Surprisingly though, the radio hasn't irritated me. I've found entertainment in being alone, peace and quiet, my computer, and phone
  51. maternity leave is expensive. there's just so many things to do when you've established a routine with the kids! buy this, eat that, go here...yay! 
  52. there's nothing more exciting than going retail shopping ALONE where I can spend a healthy amount of time somewhere, try on things, think about things, go nuts buying or just window shopping. love it!
finally....

i thought i couldn't love another more than I do my #1, but now I can't imagine my family without my wonderful baby #2, Mikkel!
 
52 Moments, 52 weeks (and then some) off! 

Sunday, August 14, 2016

My Birthday Wishlist!!

This month I'm turning the ripe young age of 34!

My birthday has really now just become another day when I turn a year older.  I think I look relatively young (ok young on Snapchat filters ha!), I definitely feel like I'm not a day over 30ish- however being woken up at 530am and literally crawling (vs. bouncing) out of bed makes me feel hella old. My responsibilities are quite heavy and grownup, nevertheless very doable and i'm motivated. Married (check), home ownership (check), done with having babies and the sleep deprivation attached (conquered), lifelong career (check)- ready to add some sweet, salty, sour, and spicy to my mid thirties. Whatever 34 has to offer, i'm as ready as ill ever be!

(c/o Pinterest)

As far as gifting, there's nothing like getting all excited about some birthday presents! Believe me when I tell you that I don't need anything, I'm a want for nothing gal. This wish list is primarily for myself, a visual on all the material things that I'm currently lusting after that I may or may not splurge on. TREAT YO' SELF to something expensive says my sister!

Anyways, my wish list In no particular order!

  1. Louis Vuitton Keepall 55 Bandouliere 55 in Macassar - I'm in this mindset that if I get one well made item, then that's all I will never need of that particular item. I'm currently in the market for a carry on bag that'll hold some essentials for myself and the kids. I've always heard that a carry on should include a couple days worth of needs in case the check in gets lost, the 55 should suffice (vs. the Keepall 45). Because anything can happen to vachetta leather, the Macassar is the most care free option. Great weekender bag too, but even better when Mikkel is potty trained as diapers don't need to be a space hog. 
  2. Chanel Le Boy flap bag- it's true when you really are interested in something, you see it around everywhere in the city, seemingly on anyone and everyone. Feels a lot like when I was trying to get pregnant, every.single.woman around the corner had a baby or bump. So here lies the Le Boy bag; beautiful, cross body, casual everyday jeans and tshirt vibe yet epitome of luxury handbags. I'm thinking black caviar with ruthenium hardware ideally, but how many black bags do i own? too many. Maybe Navy with ruthenium hardware? Bold colours would be cool but I wear too many dark colours and am afraid of colour transfer on such an expensive bag. Want!
  3. Gucci Jordaan Leather Loafer- looking forward to transitioning into my favourite season with the timeless loafer that'll carry me through many years. my Fall-Winter uniform of long coat and skinny jeans work well with the menswear inspired shoe, an original fashion house design of over 60 years old. I'm done with crap fast fashion shoes at retail price, as I get older i'm loving shoes that mold to my feet and can be resoled over and over again with the cost per wear going down over the years. Also, because my foot size has gone up a whole shoe size since baby #2, my feet are house hunting!
  4. Jo Malone fragrance- i love stopping by the Jo Malone section at Nordstrom and taking a whiff at all the different scents. I think Holt Renfrew has a section but I don't recall them having that table of samples? Someone correct me if i'm wrong. Anyways, I don't love them all but from the ones I do like, I can't decide which one I love more and willing to drop $120+ on a bottle! Unlike many other fragrances, I feel like the scents are natural- on me, I'm like a walking Sage Wellness instead of Bath and Body Works, y'know what I mean? 
  5. Danish Teak Lounger- i love mid century modern and currently in the market for a lounger to complete our living room. Current criteria includes: Danish teak, clean profile, stamped Made In Denmark or has the maker's mark, open to reupholstering, a pair preferred but 1 will do, ottoman a bonus but not essential. Plenty of MCM retail stores here but id rather save some costs and wait on craigslist- with that, I'm in competition with so many teak hounds. I don't know how they do it, do they refresh the site every minute or something? right place right time? the fastest we've ever sold our teak furniture was literally 4 minutes, item unseen by buyer!
  6. Northwest Coast Native Wrap Ring- I love love love West Coast Native jewellery, something about the carving, design, and symbolism speaks to me. my favourite carver is Alvin Adkins and i have a few of his pieces. I'm looking to add a ring to my collection but still trying to find the right one, or rather the right one will one day choose me if that makes any sense. My fav gallery is just far enough that I can't visit often unless it's a special occasion. This love for native art is something Gene and I have in common, if when we were to get new wedding bling, we'd take gold Native design over diamond any day. 
  7. works of art by Norval Morrisseau- this is a long shot for this year (or for any year who am I kidding? lol), but maybe if I win the lotto?! Other than Ted Harrison, Norval Morisseau is one artist I would spend a small fortune on to adorn my walls. I'd die for 1 large authentic piece! Legend states he used to sell his pieces in Vancouver to fund his addiction decades ago, wow! 

happy birth month to me!

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Stop the Clock! Mikkel is 11 months old!


hair: natural side part on the right side with longer bangs. really itching to get a hair clip or tie up her hair into a little pony tail.
eyes: Brown centres, grey rims
weight: SOLID

head: No new teeth in month 10 and I don't see any teeth in the next week or so. gets super excited when we're about to wake up her brother, nearly bouncing while in my arms (heavy!). she really really loves her brother, and has smiles for him whenever she lays eyes on him. she started dancing this last month, and by dancing she either does vertical pushups while standing, or bouncing on her legs with arms up, or just bobbing her head up and down on the spot. Thriller by Michael Jackson was the flavour of the month. Currently notices things all around her now; lights, art, pictures of family and says "hooooo hoooooo" with cute curled lips. 

cries: she sucks at travelling, truly hates being restrained by the carseat. we had to go to UBC to visit someone at the hospital and I had to bring tonnes of entertainment for her alone. the iPad is not something she's interested in at all! if she is tired of a toy, she throws it over her shoulder where I cannot reach (i sit in the back with them), so by the end of the trip (a 40 minute trip), my bag of goodies is on the floor and my ears are deaf from her squawking, shrieking, crying. She also 'fights' with Max will on the car seat- as she is rear facing, she swings her leg over his forward facing space and pushes/semi kicks him. the more i stop her from doing so, the more she escalates. 

GI: i feel like I'm running out of food ideas, because i don't eat that great either. refuses to be spoon fed altogether as an added bonus. for breakfast, it's often an apple, toast, scrambled egg (she's good with egg whites, phew!), despises apple sauce now. for lunch, there's always some sort of chicken and fries wedges plus fruit. Dinner is what we're having plus fruit. she likes peas thankfully as they're so easy to make. i save parts of our dinner to give to her for lunch the next day too. lots of carbs, she's a carb freak like me. she really loves this Munchkin Click Lock Bite Proof Trainer Cup, able to take it and drink on her own...and drops it on the floor. She doesn't like any other cup and will just throw it to the ground without drinking- how is this trial and error of kids stuff even affordable? 

feeding: I reduced the number and frequency of her feeds in month 10 just to prep her for my absence while at work. During month 10, i fed her on waking in the am, after breakfast, mini top up before going out (maybe), after lunch, sometimes after nap if she woke up before 4pm, but not if she woke up after or she'll have less appetite for dinner. always a feed to drowsy during bed time routine. I definitely tried to feed food before breastfeeding this last month. if it was a scorcher day, i was more relaxed about hydration via breast.

^^ extra happy face ^^

GU: pampers baby dry #4

skin/body: chunks of love. still fits in the bathroom sink for her bedtime wash, tried to put her in the big tub by herself and with her brother...no go.

communication: her first word is definitely "Daddy" and was said this month. when Gene wakes up, she randomly started saying "dadddddyyyy" and followed him on multiple occasions. Randomly when Gene and Max went to the washroom at a restaurant, she stopped eating and kept saying "dadddddyyyy" for about 1 minute (pretty long in kid vocab!) as she looked around. yep, thanks kid! Also, if she Max tries to take something from her while they're playing, she shrieks or squawks quite loudly but doesn't put up a lingering fight, just resistance.



muscle strength: crawls long distances and looks for me by searching each room. it's just fantastically heart warming and adorable. furniture cruising. pulling herself up with one arm easy.

hands: Like there's no change with these claws, as evidenced by all the scarring on my chest from her scratching. she's also pinching. not sure what i loathe more??!

legs: the only thing frustrating her while crawling are her skirts, they just get right under her knees and pull her down and her body becomes a barrier.

play: any type of peekaboo, tickling. frequent books are Goodnight Moon, Baby Animals sounds, this hand puppet book with a pig, and an ABC book (links to follow eventually). Eating crayons tsktsk 




sleep: looks like she's staying up longer, bed time routine was pushed forward to 640pm during month 10 with her falling asleep at 710pm-ish. 
current schedule: wake up 515-530am (yeah i know!)
-nap at 1015am for 30 minutes
-nap at 2pm for 1.5-2 hours
This month 10, i let her fuss for 1 night (15 minutes) after her first waking and she slept the entire night with no feed! carried on for the rest of the month! Love the Homedics sound machine too for all of our sleep comforts.
On JULY 21st, I let her sleep in the crib for a nap for the first time EVER! She did cry for 10 minutes and then fell asleep for 1.5 hours with the white noise machine and fan blasting. It can happen!! 


how she sleeps: carrier for naps, bouncing to sleep. in her playpen pushed to the darkest park of the room for night sleep. breastfeed till drowsy, but this month I waited only 5 minutes before putting her down in crib as opposed to the 10-12 minutes i used to wait before putting her down and leaving room. sure she fussed, but maybe for 2 minutes max, her body is really ready for sleep at that hour. always sleeps on her tummy. 


as for me: thinking about back to work process. too many things happened in month 10 (parents moving, resettling, mom had surgery, sister moved etc) that i don't feel like much happened with me, myself, and I. I have some goals for Mikkel's new routines to start in month 11 and am finding that i feel more motivated now and can make decisions easier. added pressure helps me see clarity maybe? 


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